Worst Turned Best Valentine's Day

I received an unexpected sweet treat from an admirer last Valentine's Day. A delightful half dozen previously enjoyed donut holes upchucked all over my lap by my adoring almost 2-year-old son. Not an ideal way to start a day meant to be full of romance and affection. Although, I suppose you could say this is ultimately where romance and affection leads.

Expectations and Realizations

No dressing up and hitting the town for us. I sported my mom bun and a fresh pair of yoga pants for the rest of the day. While my friends were getting bouquets delivered to their cubicles, I delivered Pedialyte popsicles and fresh puke buckets to my sick children on the couch. Stomach viruses are a nasty business, especially when the ones infected don't know how to sit on a toilet, much less get to one in time to blow grits in it.

My sweet babies were miserable and there was nothing I could do beyond giving cuddles, trying to keep them hydrated, and praying. At last, my knight in shining armor came home with take-out and a growler of honey mead for me. He put the children to bed while I ate and then helped me finish a project for a deadline I had.

It turned out to be the best Valentine's Day I've ever had.

The moment my lap became soiled with regurgitated sugar balls, my romantic expectations for the day went from a movie scene out of The Notebook to one from True Grit. I was free to treat the day like any other day in the trenches of motherhood. It was gross and difficult, but I was doing what moms are designed to do: nurture their children and pray for them.

The Love of the Father

I struggle with anxiety, especially when it comes to my babies' health. I have learned I need to go to God before Google when an illness is in our house. Consequently, I spend more time praying throughout these days than any other, which puts my mind on God. When my mind is on Him I am more aware of His love and provision in my life.

Humble yourselves...casting all your cares on him, because he cares about you. 

1 Peter 5:6-7 CSB

The Love of a Husband

At the end of the day, instead of expecting anything from me, my husband addressed my most basic needs at that moment: food, parental relief, and a deadline. It may not sound like much, but I believe he was doing what husbands are called to do. He loved me sacrificially.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her.

Ephesians 5:25 CSB

Sometimes I think I know what love is, and then I experience God's version of it. His love is so much better than anything I could ever imagine. Romance may be the giant jumbotron gestures, but true love can be found in the unsung moments of motherhood and marriage.

Now What?

15 comments on “Worst Turned Best Valentine's Day”

  1. I enjoyed reading this post, both because of your way with words and the encouragement and truths in it. Thanks for sharing!

  2. You were standing in the gap so to speak here in these unexpected mishaps. It will be so cool to see how God rewards the faithfulness of his children when we stand before Him and give an account of these type of days and experiences. You were and are on the frontline with your young ones, so keep pressing forward knowing the "I can do all things who Christ who strengthens me." You are blessed to have a thoughtful husband too that shows you he loves you by thinking ahead to bring you something you like in carry out form. PS...what do you think about all of those snow flakes out in your yard??? I think a record snowfall for us maybe, at least in a long time!!!! Love you all!!!

  3. I do so wish this lesson was taught to every young girl! Hallmark romance is simply that...romance. It is love that sustains and makes a family flourish. Well said.

  4. Wonderful thoughts from a great Mom. Thanks for improving my morning. I guess I'll take back the cheezy stuffed animal for Lollie.

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